Unveiling Societial Torture To Women Regarding Her Career

How society is creating hurdles in girl’s life:

We live in a society where every individual faces some challenges. Here, the mention is being made of the difficulties that are created by society, whether it is for a girl or a boy. But how our society particularly addresses these challenges for girls, in what manner, is being discussed below.

It is often said that what’s the need for a girl to earn; she may study, but ultimately, she is destined for marriage. While women empowerment is on the rise in our society, the majority of women and girls still face challenges. Many are pursuing education and working, and we believe that a girl is free because she is studying. However, it remains difficult for a girl, especially a daughter. A father who is educating both his son and daughter without discrimination, paying hefty fees despite a low income, is noteworthy.

When a girl completes her school and college education and enters university, the first restriction she faces is often imposed by her society and parents, stating that girls can only attend university in the morning, not in the evening. On the surface, it may seem like a small matter for others to suggest studying in the morning if not in the evening. However, when the time comes to send a son to university, there is no such restriction. Now, when both a daughter and a son are heading to university, both carry the same concern – that the responsibility of the fees their father is paying should be taken on their shoulders as soon as possible.A girl often faces these restrictions from the start, sometimes without even needing explicit instructions because our society has predetermined expectations for a girl. On the other hand, a son who attends evening classes can easily work during the day, or if not in the morning, can take up a night shift job to pay for his fees and contribute to supporting his parents.

But now, when it comes to a girl, she automatically becomes a burden on her father. Even though no father explicitly says this to his children, the children themselves realize that if their father’s salary is just enough to cover their fees, how long can he continue to bear this responsibility while also managing the household expenses? And once all the income is dedicated to paying fees, when will he gather the funds for his daughter’s wedding? While the reality is that a girl, a daughter, desires to pay her own fees and gather funds for her wedding, the constraints imposed on her, like not allowing her to go out after sunset, limit her options. For a girl who is only permitted to attend university in the morning, teaching during the day seems to be her only option. However, the challenge arises for a girl who can only attend university in the morning – how will she pursue teaching during the day?”

So now, she has no option left; she cannot work in the morning or after university because of the darkness, and night shift jobs are not feasible. The same people who impose these restrictions are the ones who make her feel that, ‘Look, a son lightens the burden on his father, but a daughter cannot.’ They fail to realize that a daughter can also financially support her father in the same way. However, due to societal norms, even while studying at university, she feels constrained.

Even if a son doesn’t work during his university studies, he is not considered a burden because there is an expectation that he will find a job after completing his education. However, what about a daughter who, despite completing her university studies, is not allowed to pursue a job? When a girl’s degree is completed, instead of seeking employment, the focus often shifts to finding a suitable marriage proposal. Many girls, who are doctors or engineers, get married right after completing their degrees in our society.Even though most girls are under 25 at that time, facing societal pressure for marriage, it becomes challenging for them, despite being in college or university. The society does not hesitate to make a girl feel as if she’s 50 years old, pushing discussions about marriage immediately after she completes college. Only she knows how she spends those four years at university.

When people meet a girl, they don’t ask her how her education is going. Instead, they inquire whether there is a marriage proposal, whether she is married, what has happened in her life, and whether she plans to continue her education or get married. The focus is often on when she is getting married.

Perhaps hearing these questions may not seem very distressing, but understanding how they affect a girl’s mental health, if our society can grasp that, it should refrain from engaging in such discussions. In a university class where everyone is focused on studying, a daughter’s mind is preoccupied with thoughts like when her father will no longer bear her expenses and from where he will gather funds for her wedding. If we genuinely want to alleviate the difficulties faced by a daughter, we must free her from the entanglement of societal restrictions.

 

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